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You know how most people say that babies prematurely born on the 8th month have lesser chances of surviving versus those that were deliverd on their 7th? That’s how I feel about turning 29…I was totally to celebrating my 28th, but since the beginning of this year, I’ve started thinking countdown to 30…I skipped out on my actual age, by a whole note…:)

When I was 22, I went to an event wherein a Feng Shui guy told me, in verbatim " Pak ikaw di asawa 27, wala ka na." I felt like he planted a time bomb inside of me. And thus, I started this year with a worried and utterly vulnerable heart. I was waking up each day thinking that if I don’t move fast enough, my market value will drop by eons by the passing months, and spinster life is on its way. I began hating saturday nights spent alone - thinking that this is the shape of things to come - no one to go out with cause my friends would all be married. I dreaded not having someone to think about when I get up each morning and most of all buried myself in desperation when I got to bed alone. And most of all, I let myself die with my failed dating expeditions. I even went to the extent of considering to marry someone I hardly knew just because it felt like my last chance to get on the bandwagon.

But one day, I just woke up feeling better and entirely different. I started thinking of all the bad things that happened and realizing the good things that came out of it. Learned a few lessons:

1. Dating the married guy taught me -well, not to date a married guy ahhaha, and knowing your self - worth, and sticking to the standards you set yourself against. Ladies, let’s know how we should be treated. If the men around you think you deserve Jimmy Choo shoes then yes, you probably do ( even though you can’t bring yourself to wear $500 footsies cause a pair alone can send two kids to school ).If you don’t feed me or bring me home, then you’re crossed off my list…forever.

2. I also learned to enjoy friendships that have gone through the test of time - not everyone you grew up with would still love you in your late 20’s, so cherish the ones that never really left your side, they’re guaranteed to love you back no matter what.

3. Great dates can be great guy friends in any case you don’t work out as a couple. You somewhat connected, that’s already enough reason to still hang out from time to time. Besides…it’s good for the business…networking!!!

4. I learned never ever to talk too much in bed…If it’s not trash talk, then save it for after.

5. Don’t listen to Eric Benet’s Hurricane album on a really depressing day - makawasak buhay sya. 

6. Nothing is bad about yearning to earn so much more and giving your job a 110%. It feeds you after all…But depends on what kind of work you have - By this time, we should be in a place in our career where we can say : I Love my J-o-b!

7. Commitment doesn’t come by easy. It’s either you can or you can’t. It can not be forced and it shouldn’t be.

8. Being who you are is GREAT and AMAZING. Knowing what you want and insisting on a take me or fuck off policy, is the best way to go. I shall not bend…

9. Beer can decrease the intensity of any problem. PERIOD. And same goes for an hour on the threadmill.

10. Be friends with musicians and rockstars, they will keep you eternally young.

Best of all, I took the pressure of my shoulders. If there is such a thing as positive cynicism, this would have to be it - Start the day thinking you won’t meet Mr. Right today, or that you never will, so that when you do, it would be a really pleasant surprise.

So, peeps, i’ll see you at my party!!!!!