WOULD YOU RATHER BE: CHEATER, CHEATED ON OR CHEATEE???
Sunday, March 9th, 2008“None of the above.” That would be the obvious and righteous answer – we all want the fairy tale ending. But then again, back to the real world, majority of the twenty something’s and beyond out there have been in any of the three situations in life as stated. Umamin na kayo…J
Most people would think that men, especially the “legendary barneys” out there, would probably say “Cheater, pare.” With a smirk that conveys a certified crooked sense of propriety…But watch him closely and a few minutes later he’ll have a far away look that means: I wish I didn’t cheat on her, siguro kame pa ngayon…But hey! I’m not judging anyone here, most definitely not generalizing men, my species are just a little bit more discreet about our elicit conquests, I think. I’m also not saying that cheating is justifiable, cause there’s no excuse for hurting someone, but the cheater also gets pained. Aside from the fact that it’s not pocket friendly, having on the side escapades takes cunning wit and a hell lot of extra effort and energy to hide all forms of evidence ( iwasang magkamali – lahat tawaging BABY ), avoid the public eye, unbelievable time management and multi-tasking skills; and for some – sleepless guilt trips ( naks! ). The last one I find applicable to people who did not mean to find someone better than the one they already have…( naks, ulit! ). Hindi nga, serious! Let’s be human here – TAKEN AND SUPPOSEDLY COMMITTED PEOPLE OUT THERE – case in point: you’ve been in a relationship for 4 years, then you meet someone new at work, sparks fly, attraction is so gigil-high, pano na??? Of course you would have to think think think…But that’s a different blog all together: How to hold yourself back from kissing your office crush for 3 years in the middle of Ayala Ave…oops. Erase that last line.
Clearly, nobody would want to be CHEATED ON. Poor victim of the cruel game of love. I’ve been in that boat and it’s not a ship you’d like to ride twice (literal diba?)…Aside from the kirot and sakit brought upon by the mere fact that he or she cheated, masakit din the following: a.how you found out ( everyone knew except you! kahit nanay mo alam, nabasa mo text ( wag na kase mangeelam ), or friendster ( bat kase alam ang password ), babae ang nagbukas ng pinto ng bahay nya ( with bagong ligo look )or point blank – sinabe nya “I’m in love with somebody else.”( valium valium! ) ),b. Kinaawaan ka ng buong mundo – not to mention your whole barkada is plotting how to get back at him – may it be kulam, pambabarang, pabubugbog and the like, 5 times a day tumatawag bestfriend mo, umiiyak ka tuwing may makakakita sa kanya with his new girl, and all of a sudden pinaglalaba ka ng kapatid mo kahit di mo bigyan ng allowance. I went through this state more than once, and the A-Z of mercury drug just won’t cut it. You sort of just get angry…then angrier…then you blame yourself…then one day you become tired…then finally you accept things and you move on…you know now that “De NILE is just a river in Egypt.” Get it? Denial…( to quote Amor De Sangre (played by May Bayot ), “Skin Deep” by Peta ). Nakababaliw man, nairaraos din.
So, what’s the safer choice???Sad to say, Cheatee. And I mean the intentional and fully cooperative one. Hindi yung by accident – di alam na querida sya (lesson:I-google lahat ng bagong date). I’m not saying that being the third party is correct. There is nothing good about sharing somebody or taking someone from somebody. A lot of us would say “ di ako pinalaki ng magulang ko para maging kabit no!” But back to the hypothetical question at hand, cheatee seems like the most un hurting of all. You already knew what you were up for – you cant text or call him all day, pag di sumagot kasama girlfriend nya, you cant see him when you want to, you cant demand, and from the onset you’re stripped of hoping and planning your future with this person.
So, if you ask me, which one would it be??? NONE. Now people know why im still single. Haha. Cheater – yes I was, but not by choice – my savior (3rd party ) made me realize there was something better than my battered girlfriend status at that time. Cheated on – isa lang nahuli ko, apat ang inamin nya. Months of therapy and enduring issues with trust and commitment…Cheatee??? Truly exciting and profitable ( hehe )…but the thrill passes and ultimately you’re left with nothing but an oversized bed on a Friday night. Hay…babalik nga tayo sa none of the above…The world, well most of it, still chooses to be idealistic, to hope for the best. Our country in particular – when the rest of the globe is into swingers and open relationships….WE, the Filipino people, have an overwhelming statistic of 800,000 couples tying the knot each year…( good for my business ). When there’s a scarcity of qualified single detached men out there, let’s be hopeful or more cautious…Remember the golden question : Are you single or married? If you’re married are you happy? If you’re still single, what the hell is wrong with you?
